Change Your Story, Change Your Life

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I woke up this morning with my current life story playing in my head, as if I was amidst of a screenplay. I laid there as a witness for a few minutes, only mildly amused by the melodramatic plot, and mostly disturbed that this junk was still on repeat .. Coming back to my senses slowly, I remember that I am the executive director of all the stories playing in my life.

So, what is the story for you today? 

Do you choose to play the part of a victim or a heroine? The heroine is always self accountable; taking full responsibility of all that happens to her. None of that same old ”he rejected me”, or ”my daddy didn’t love me” narrative. There is nothing empowering about that kind of a story. It only drags you down.. way down, into the darkness of soul stagnation, where no growth is possible. A good ground rule to pull out of these kinds of stories, is to accept each moment as if you had chosen it, because you did.

Egos thrive on dramatic plots and self perpetuate them just to continue the show.

Watch what happens when you change your story. Or even challenge it for a moment. Its grip starts to loosen around your neck. New possibilities will begin to emerge. Clouds that were covering your consciousness move aside, and a new kind of brilliant light shines through. The light that was always there, but you didn’t see because you were so caught up in the turmoils of your script.

Today, I choose to re-write my story …

Can you come up with a new twist that totally shifts your perspective and all the characters you have included?

My morning story is taking on a whole new chapter today, with a lot more compassion for myself. I give thanks to the intricacies of this theater, in recognition of the bigger picture, also known as soul reality. I know shadow play is my teacher and all the characters I have invited in my allies. Aho!

 

 

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The Great Privilege of Being YOU

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Let’s play a game. The game is called BEING YOU.

Before starting your day, imagine that you are going to a costume party. This highly unique V.I.P masquerade requires that everything you say, think, or do is 100% aligned with your truest self. Absolutely everything here goes through a supernaturally accurate x-ray machine that prevents anything that is not YOU from entering. Talking about a major strip search!

The end goal of this game is to be granted access to the party of BEING YOURSELF. This is nothing less than the grand prize and privilege of your lifetime. In fact, it’s your life’s purpose.

In the process of playing you will learn to question everything about who you believe yourself to be. No excuses. No apologizes. Be vigilant about watching your thoughts, words and reactions. Let nothing pass through today that doesn’t ring true in the core of your being.

Most people won’t even get in. Maybe it will take me a couple of tries. I can’t even protest at the door, because I know that at times, like 99% of humans on this planet, I become so absurdly disconnected from who I truly am, that it requires a psychological hat trick for even to consider what being me looks like.

Have you been wearing someone else’s costume lately? Where did this costume come from – and more importantly – WHY did you choose to wear it? Whose dream are you living? What does being you feel like? Are you modifying your behaviour in any way to fit into someone else’s party? Is this game scaring you yet? All the more reason to play!

One of my favorites parts in the movie I Heart Huckabees, is when Lily Tomlin and Dustin Hoffman question Jude Law about a joke he keeps repeating endlessly to his co-workers. They confront him about his automaton behaviour and suggest that he ask: ”How am I not myself?”. This question begins to haunt him by continuously playing in his head, and starts to dismantle his entire reality. He sees that he has been living a disgusting lie, in hopes of pleasing others. Consequently, he realizes that every part of his life; his job, trophy girlfriend, house, fancy car, all belong to this phony self he thought he was. The self that repeats the same old joke hundreds of times on automatic, only because he wants everyone to desperately like him.

(Brilliant movie by the way. If you haven’t seen I highly recommend it).

Does the storyline ring a bell? Or an alarm perhaps?

Is the work you do satisfying on a soul level or is it killing you slowly? What would the REAL YOU rather be doing?

Everyone shapeshifts and adapts to various costumes in order to survive. It’s part of the human evolution. In the process we lose track of who we are, and then look to the outside for clues on how to get back in. The irony is that you are born being YOU.

Next time you are about to overwrite yourself for someone else’s blueprint, just pause and consider for a moment: how are you not being yourself?

Helpful hint: If you could use a little existential investigation on your soul’s true calling, consider hiring me for a LIFE PURPOSE READING.

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Light up Your Own Sky

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”We are mosaics – pieces of light, love, history, stars – glued together with magic, and music, and words.” – Anita Krizzan

This time of the year has always been about magic and healing for me. I grew up in one of the darkest parts of the world (Finland!), and had to learn to reach for the light within, many times, to cope with the few hours of daylight we would get.

I discovered pretty quickly that we need the contrast of dark to see the light.. night and shadow became a friend and an ally. I would go out in the pitch black night, and build snow lanterns, marveling at how one single candle would light up the whole yard.. This became a deeply spiritual ritual that would take place every Christmas. Enchanted, I would stare at the flame until the candle finally flickered out.

May this day be a reminder of the magic lantern that exists within you – it’s always there when you need it. You call it forth, any day that your sky needs lighting up. Once it’s lit, you illuminate everything around you.

With bright blessings,
Aleeiah

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It’s Time to Find Your True Purpose

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(photo by Lewisa – thank you!)

I have been an existential detective all my life. When other kids were dressing their dolls, I was out there, roaming every corner of the playground by myself, in search for meaning to this madness. Then, I’d go in my room and write about it in my little blue plastic diary.

If you’re reading this, chances are you are like me.

You seek truth. You crave for purpose. You’re tired of living in a way that doesn’t satisfy your soul. Deep down, you know there is more to life than dressing dolls or sweating to pay bills.

Every person on this planet was born with an unique vibrational blueprint. This blueprint was encoded in your name and birth time. This numerical code reveals your life purpose. Think of it as a vibrational road map to your personal universe. All your talents, strengths, as well as your karmic lessons and obstacles are mapped out in this unique code.

It is with great joy and excitement that I now offer LIFE PURPOSE READINGS based on numerology and astrology!

If there is more struggle and strive than peace and abundance going on in your life, and things don’t seem to be moving in the direction you hope and expect, it’s time to get serious and have a closer look at your life purpose code. When you are in alignment with your true purpose and mission, things tend to flow effortlessly, with a sense of ease and accomplishment.

You may have a pretty good clue on why you are here, and where your calling is, but sometimes you need someone who can draw out the map – clearly in front of you.

I started The Medicine Owl in 2010 with the intention to assist others in existential dilemmas, and to provide guidance for anyone in search for truth and meaning. It has taken me many unbelievable detours to arrive at this point. Today I can no longer avoid following the urge of my soul to be of service, and to finally answer the call of the Owl.

I hope to be of assistance along your journey!

p.s If you know anyone who might benefit from the guidance of a LIFE PURPOSE READING, would you please forward this letter to them?

With blessings,

Aleeiah aka MD Owl

 

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Blessed Be The Longing ..

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Blessed be the longing that brought you here

And quickens your soul with wonder.

May you have the courage to listen to the voice of desire

That disturbs you when you have settled for something safe.

May you have the wisdom to enter generously into your own unease

To discover the new direction your longing wants you to take.

May the forms of your belonging–in love, creativity, and friendship–

Be equal to the grandeur and the call of your soul.

May the one you long for long for you.

May your dreams gradually reveal the destination of your desire.

May a secret Providence guide your thought and nurture your feeling.

May your mind inhabit your life with the sureness with which
your body inhabits the world.

May your heart never be haunted by ghost-structures of old damage.

May you come to accept your longing as divine urgency.

May you know the urgency with which God longs for you.

by John O’ Donohue

More poetry at the archives.

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Get Over Procrastination and Not-Good-Enough BS

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‘Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.’‘ – Marianne Williamson

Pretending to be small and powerless is not going to cut it anymore. Take THIS as a sign that it’s time to get over yourself and start doing the work you were meant to do – to share the unique gifts that have been so divinely bestowed upon you.

TRUST ME: YOU ARE REALLY F*$$$*%ING GOOD!

And clever, too. So clever, that all this time you’ve managed to deceive yourself into believing lies about why you can’t, when in fact, you know very well that you can.

But knowing is not enough. You have to walk the walk. Do the work. TRUST.

Yes, it means facing all the what-ifs, and all the rest of those chickenshit fairy tales. Somebody is always gonna be pissed off by what you do or say. There is no helping that.

THE ONLY PERSON YOU WERE MEANT TO PLEASE IS YOU

When you decide to live the naked truth of who you really are; to step out courageously, despite your fears of inadequacy or ridicule, it’s gonna aggravate the hell out of those people who are still hiding behind façades of self deceit. And there will be some protesting.

Keep in mind, that you are doing these folks a favor by leading with your example of authenticity and courage. Let them bitch and complain, or unfriend you in Facebook – shocking. Who cares! Other people are not really the problem here. You have to come to terms with your fear of not being good enough – good enough for what or for who? – for YOU.

DON’T WAIT FOR READY TO HAPPEN

When I knew that writing a self-help blog was part of my life’s mission, I was terrified at first. Who am I to claim to be qualified to give any kind of advise? English is my second language, never made it past high school, and my grammar is a good guess. Mostly, I felt too messed up to help anyone else. I kept waiting for the day I would feel ”ready”. That day never came.

But I did go through some hard core life changing stuff, and hit a place where I didn’t give a f%*#k anymore about what anyone else thought. It’s beautiful when you get there. Sadly it doesn’t last. The same old fears creep in, and I have to face them, over and over again, until this small self learns how to shut up.

HERE’S WHAT I’VE LEARNED ABOUT FEAR

Fear is that door in you that will lead you to your biggest leaps of growth. The bigger the fear, the bigger the growth. Fear, pain and discomfort are your most valuable teachers. No growth or real progress ever comes from happy. When you’re content and cruising on OK, what’s the hurry to improve? Therefore, fear is your lover and your best friend. Dance with it. It will show you where your greatest talents lie.

WHAT MAKES YOU FEEL RADICALLY ALIVE?

So, I ask you: is there something you’ve been procrastinating about doing forever? Something that gives you a rush of adrenaline so high, you don’t know whether to crawl under the bed and hide for the rest of your life, or step out to the light and shine like the crazy diamond you are?

This is your yellow brick road. Your true calling that will lead you to greatness. Yes, it will take some work like anything worthwhile in life, and you may have to slay a few hungry demons along the way. But it’s what you really need to DO to live your truth.

CAN YOU DEAL WITH YOUR OWN GREATNESS?

There is no contest going on here on how to be you. Nobody else can be YOU. Even if there are millions of people doing what you do, there will never be another expression of your very form of uniqueness and talent. And that makes you truly, infinitely priceless, and remarkably rare.

WHAT YOU DO IN THIS LIFE MATTERS A GREAT DEAL

No more of this second guessing bullshit. Go out there and live your dream. Stop wasting your life by doing something less than what makes your heart sing.

 

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Lakota Prayer

Photo: Nahko Bear

Wakan Tanka, Great Mystery: teach me how to trust my heart, my mind, my intuition, my inner knowing, the senses of my body, the blessings of my spirit. Teach me to trust these things so that I may enter my sacred space and love beyond my fear, and thus walk in balance with the passing of each glorious sun.

– Lakota Prayer

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Small Reminder on Opening the Heart

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“You know quite well, deep within you, that there is only a single magic, a single power, a single salvation… and that is called loving. Well, then, love your suffering. Do not resist it, do not flee from it. It is your aversion that hurts, nothing else.” – Herman Hesse

Sometimes in life your heart just breaks open.. and is left sore and raw like a piece of steak. This is just what happens, and it’s okay.

It will keep happening until all your heartache turns into a river of trust. The river runs through you, into the ocean.. and becomes surrender. And the ocean loves you unconditionally, without fear. If you have spent enough time by the ocean, you know this is true.

LOVE IS THE ABSENCE OF FEAR

Nobody is there to stay in your life. Some stay longer than others, but not one can promise you permanence. People come and go, life happens, and it doesn’t make love any worse.

You will meet some people who are unable to respond to your love. But others will come who can receive and share your love.

Love will always return. Especially if you learn how to give love without fear of losing it.

Maybe it will arrive in ever so subtle ways.. like rays of sunlight through a cracked door. Or a helpful gesture from a kind stranger. Rest assured, love is always there and you were never apart from it.

Take risks. Let people in. Love someone even if they’re not around. Love without any hope for return. Love because you can. When you allow yourself to love in this way, you grow expansive and fearless.

Above all – be grateful that you have a heart. And that heart was made to open. There is no other way to use it.

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Healing the Rejection Wound

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 “Whatever is rejected from the self, appears in the world as an event.”  – C.G. Jung

What if this thing called rejection is only a story that the mind has conjured up to keep you from tasting the fullness of life? What if it’s preventing you from experiencing the bliss of a true intimate connection with another soul? When you look deep within, to the darkest cave of your past, do you see the light of consciousness shining toward you, beckoning you to soar higher.. until you can no longer cling to this dysfunctional pit of darkness?

Out of all experiences in life rejection is the one that seems to push our buttons hardest. No wonder we walk around with such a heavy emotional arsenal against it. A variety of defensive patterns that supposedly ”protect us” from getting hurt. Such as being overtly reclusive or independent, or getting caught in a shallow speed dating pattern, only so you can reject others before they reject you. These barriers only shut us down further, and prevent the healing. Most of us crave intimacy on a deep, primal level, and yet we block access to it because of old protective mechanisms.

Let’s face it: everyone has experienced rejection at some point in their lives and it was never pretty.

NOW YOU HAVE 2 CHOICES ABOUT IT:

1. Do the work and heal this BS!

2. Ignore it and pretend to move on (bad idea!).

Re-living our stories we will only deepen the scar. This often happens when we enter in a relationship trying to patch up the wound with other people who are broken in the same way – dating people who carry the same unprocessed wound. And, before you realize it, the situation turns into one big rejection festival. Who left who? We have this way of hurting others in the same way that we have been hurt. Aaah.. it was the karma, you say. But this karma is only real if you were unaware of your story and chose to repeat it.

TAKE A LOOK IN THE MIRROR..

All rejection is really our inner self rejection projecting itself into outer reality. We unconsciously sabotage the operation because of core beliefs we harbor. Whether it is you that are doing the rejecting or being rejected, it’s all part of the same play.

Most likely the person who seemingly rejected you carried an unacknowledged part of your story that you weren’t ready to own. If you were not aware of this until now, this is the one realization that will turn your life inside out – or more accurately – outside in.

There is no one else to blame. What now? Can you see how you’ve been sabotaging all your relationships because of this small misunderstanding?

When you shift the focus on YOU alone, you can finally stop finding fault in outer circumstances and blaming other people. Then, find out how and why you are rejecting yourself.

How do you keep yourself  ”safe” so you don’t have to experience rejection? Where do you hold feelings of not being worthy of love? These are the blocks that cause repeated rejection to occur. By healing the rejection wound within yourself, you no longer attract this experience in your life.

CAN YOU ANSWER THESE QUESTIONS TRUTHFULLY?

In what ways have I not allowed love into my life?

Have I not forgiven someone who seemingly ”rejected me”?

What defense patterns do I engage in that keep me from loving and being loved?

Am I holding on to hurt from past relationships ending?

TRULY, IT’S ALL ABOUT SELF LOVE

“A cup that is already full has no room to receive.” – A Zen Proverb

If your cup is full of defenses and hurt from all those outdated rejection encounters, you have no room for receiving love.

Somewhere in your inner operating system there is a command that says: I am not worthy of love, or, I am not good enough as I am. This prompt keeps you on automatic, no matter what your conscious wishes may be. If you think you can enter into a relationship and not have it end up in another rejection scenario – without doing the work of self forgiveness and healing – think again. These patterns don’t change until we do.

When you subconsciously send out signals of low self worth, what shoots back are situations and people that reflect it. Then we wonder why we keep getting into so-called rejection scenarios, over and over again.

So, find out what your inner blueprint says. Are you hiding a sense of worthlessness behind a facade of pride, self directed sarcasm, or rap about how none of this stuff even applies to you?

A quick way to see how much you really love yourself, is by taking a look at how people closest to you in your daily life are treating you. This is a direct barometer of your sense of self worth. The people closest to you, or their absence, can teach you most about how much you love yourself at this moment.

Remember, that there is a bigger picture in every heartache. Life is really teaching you to love more – through the pain – even if it feels like a stagger in the heart. We continuously set ourselves up for rejection unless we truly learn how to accept and love ALL parts of ourselves. This is the journey back to wholeness.

THE RECOVERY PLAN

There is no express way to loving yourself more. It’s a matter of making the choice, and then following up with consistency and commitment to yourself, day by day.

When you start focusing on loving yourself and living life the way you want it, miracles start to happen. Suddenly, all these barriers start crumbling down. This is the single most valuable thing you can do to yourself and others. After all, all of your experiences and relationships arise from this place of unconditional love and acceptance of yourself.

Here is the way it works: the more genuine self love you can allow in (not talking about egoistical, self indulgent kind of love, but soul love), the more loving people and circumstances you will attract in your life. From a place of authentic self love, it is impossible to experience rejection, because there is nothing to reject!

DON’T LET THE PAST TELL YOU WHAT TO DO

Start living in the present moment, conscious of who you want to be TODAY. You have chosen this experience and finally understand what it was all about. Just process it, and choose to let go. Pain and joy are both part of life’s ebb and flow. They come and go. Don’t hold on to your pain for longer than necessary.

Ultimately, rejection is another story we tell ourselves to avoid being truly vulnerable and open. Allow the feelings to run through you without resistance, and realize that you were never truly rejected by anyone else, nor were they.

All we really need to do is LET GO of the stories that keep us from realizing the illusion of separateness.

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