”Either surrender because you realize your inability and need a higher power to help you, or investigate the cause of misery.”
- Ramana Maharsi
”Either surrender because you realize your inability and need a higher power to help you, or investigate the cause of misery.”
- Ramana Maharsi
I have been an existential detective all my life. When other kids were dressing their dolls, I was out there, roaming every corner of the playground by myself, in search for meaning to this madness. Then, I’d go in my room and write about it in my little blue plastic diary.
If you’re reading this, chances are you are like me.
You seek truth. You crave purpose. You are tired of living in a way that doesn’t satisfy your soul. You know there is more to life than dressing dolls or sweating to pay bills.
Every person on this planet was born with an unique vibrational blueprint. This blueprint was encoded in your given name and birth date/time. When you arrived, a numerical code was created revealing your life purpose. This is a vibrational road map to your universe; all your talents, strengths, as well as your lessons and obstacles are mapped out in this code.
It is with great joy and excitement that I offer LIFE PURPOSE READINGS.
If there is more struggle and strive than peace and abundance going on in your life, and things don’t seem to be moving in the direction you hope and expect, it’s time to get serious and have a closer look at your life purpose blueprint. When you are in alignment with your true purpose and mission, things tend to flow effortlessly, with a sense of ease and accomplishment.
You may have a pretty good clue on why you are here, and where your calling is, but sometimes you need someone who can draw out the map – clearly in front of you.
I started The Medicine Owl in 2010 with the intention to assist others in existential dilemmas, and to provide guidance for anyone in search for truth and meaning. It has taken me many unbelievable detours to arrive at this point. Today I can no longer avoid following the urge of my soul to be of service, and to finally answer the call of the Owl.
I hope to be of assistance along your journey to self discovery!
p.s If you know anyone who might benefit from the guidance of a LIFE PURPOSE READING, would you please forward this letter to them?
With love and gratitude,
Aleeiah aka MD Owl
Blessed be the longing that brought you here
And quickens your soul with wonder.
May you have the courage to listen to the voice of desire
That disturbs you when you have settled for something safe.
May you have the wisdom to enter generously into your own unease
To discover the new direction your longing wants you to take.
May the forms of your belonging–in love, creativity, and friendship–
Be equal to the grandeur and the call of your soul.
May the one you long for long for you.
May your dreams gradually reveal the destination of your desire.
May a secret Providence guide your thought and nurture your feeling.
May your mind inhabit your life with the sureness with which
your body inhabits the world.
May your heart never be haunted by ghost-structures of old damage.
May you come to accept your longing as divine urgency.
May you know the urgency with which God longs for you.
by John O’ Donohue
More poetry at the archives.
‘‘Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.’‘ – Marianne Williamson
Pretending to be small and powerless is not going to cut it anymore. Take THIS as a sign that it’s time to get over yourself and start doing the work you were meant to do – to share the unique gifts that have been so divinely bestowed upon you.
TRUST ME: YOU ARE REALLY F*$$$*%ING GOOD!
And clever, too. So clever, that all this time you’ve managed to deceive yourself into believing lies about why you can’t, when in fact, you know very well that you can.
But knowing is not enough. You have to walk the walk. Do the work. TRUST.
Yes, it means facing all the what-ifs, and all the rest of those chickenshit fairy tales. Somebody is always gonna be pissed off by what you do or say. There is no helping that.
THE ONLY PERSON YOU WERE MEANT TO PLEASE IS YOU
When you decide to live the naked truth of who you really are; to step out courageously, despite your fears of inadequacy or ridicule, it’s gonna aggravate the hell out of those people who are still hiding behind façades of self deceit. And there will be some protesting.
Keep in mind, that you are doing these folks a favor by leading with your example of authenticity and courage. Let them bitch and complain, or unfriend you in Facebook – shocking. Who cares! Other people are not really the problem here. You have to come to terms with your fear of not being good enough – good enough for what or for who? – for YOU.
DON’T WAIT FOR READY TO HAPPEN
When I knew that writing a self-help blog was part of my life’s mission, I was terrified at first. Who am I to claim to be qualified to give any kind of advise? English is my second language, never made it past high school, and my grammar is a good guess. Mostly, I felt too messed up to help anyone else. I kept waiting for the day I would feel ”ready”. That day never came.
But I did go through some hard core life changing stuff, and hit a place where I didn’t give a f%*#k anymore about what anyone else thought. It’s beautiful when you get there. Sadly it doesn’t last. The same old fears creep in, and I have to face them, over and over again, until this small self learns how to shut up.
HERE’S WHAT I’VE LEARNED ABOUT FEAR
Fear is that door in you that will lead you to your biggest leaps of growth. The bigger the fear, the bigger the growth. Fear, pain and discomfort are your most valuable teachers. No growth or real progress ever comes from happy. When you’re content and cruising on OK, what’s the hurry to improve? Therefore, fear is your lover and your best friend. Dance with it. It will show you where your greatest talents lie.
WHAT MAKES YOU FEEL RADICALLY ALIVE?
So, I ask you: is there something you’ve been procrastinating about doing forever? Something that gives you a rush of adrenaline so high, you don’t know whether to crawl under the bed and hide for the rest of your life, or step out to the light and shine like the crazy diamond you are?
This is your yellow brick road. Your true calling that will lead you to greatness. Yes, it will take some work like anything worthwhile in life, and you may have to slay a few hungry demons along the way. But it’s what you really need to DO to live your truth.
CAN YOU DEAL WITH YOUR OWN GREATNESS?
There is no contest going on here on how to be you. Nobody else can be YOU. Even if there are millions of people doing what you do, there will never be another expression of your very form of uniqueness and talent. And that makes you truly, infinitely priceless, and remarkably rare.
WHAT YOU DO IN THIS LIFE MATTERS A GREAT DEAL
No more of this second guessing bullshit. Go out there and live your dream. Stop wasting your life by doing something less than what makes your heart sing.
Wakan Tanka, Great Mystery: teach me how to trust my heart, my mind, my intuition, my inner knowing, the senses of my body, the blessings of my spirit. Teach me to trust these things so that I may enter my sacred space and love beyond my fear, and thus walk in balance with the passing of each glorious sun.
– Lakota Prayer
“You know quite well, deep within you, that there is only a single magic, a single power, a single salvation… and that is called loving. Well, then, love your suffering. Do not resist it, do not flee from it. It is your aversion that hurts, nothing else.” – Herman Hesse
Sometimes in life your heart just breaks open.. and is left sore and raw like a piece of steak. This is just what happens, and it’s okay.
It will keep happening until all your heartache turns into a river of trust. The river runs through you, into the ocean.. and becomes surrender. And the ocean loves you unconditionally, without fear. If you have spent enough time by the ocean, you know this is true.
LOVE IS THE ABSENCE OF FEAR
Nobody is there to stay in your life. Some stay longer than others, but not one can promise you permanence. People come and go, life happens, and it doesn’t make love any worse.
You will meet some people who are unable to respond to your love. But others will come who can receive and share your love.
Love will always come back, especially if you learn how to give love without fear of losing it.
Maybe it will arrive in ever so subtle ways, like rays of sunlight through a cracked door.. or a helpful gesture from a kind stranger. Rest assured, love is always there and you were never apart from it.
Take risks. Let people in. Love someone even if they’re not around. Love without any hope for return. Love because you can. When you allow yourself to love in this way, you grow expansive and fearless.
Above all – be grateful that you have a heart. And that heart was made to open. There is no other way to use it.
“Whatever is rejected from the self, appears in the world as an event.” - C.G. Jung
What if this thing called rejection is only a story that the mind has conjured up to keep you from tasting the fullness of life? What if it’s preventing you from experiencing the bliss of a true intimate connection with another soul? When you look deep within, to the darkest cave of your past, do you see the light of consciousness shining toward you, beckoning you to soar higher.. until you can no longer cling to this dysfunctional pit of darkness?
Out of all experiences in life rejection is the one that seems to push our buttons hardest. No wonder we walk around with such a heavy emotional arsenal against it. A variety of defensive patterns that supposedly ”protect us” from getting hurt. Such as being overtly reclusive or independent, or getting caught in a shallow speed dating pattern, only so you can reject others before they reject you. These barriers only shut us down further, and prevent the healing. Most of us crave intimacy on a deep, primal level, and yet we block access to it because of old protective mechanisms.
Let’s face it: everyone has experienced rejection at some point in their lives and it was never pretty.
NOW YOU HAVE 2 CHOICES ABOUT IT:
1. Do the work and heal this BS!
2. Ignore it and pretend to move on (bad idea!).
Re-living our stories we will only deepen the scar. This often happens when we enter in a relationship trying to patch up the wound with other people who are broken in the same way – dating people who carry the same unprocessed wound. And, before you realize it, the situation turns into one big rejection festival. Who left who? We have this way of hurting others in the same way that we have been hurt. Aaah.. it was the karma, you say. But this karma is only real if you were unaware of your story and chose to repeat it.
TAKE A LOOK IN THE MIRROR..
All rejection is really our inner self rejection projecting itself into outer reality. We unconsciously sabotage the operation because of core beliefs we harbor. Whether it is you that are doing the rejecting or being rejected, it’s all part of the same play.
Most likely the person who seemingly rejected you carried an unacknowledged part of your story that you weren’t ready to own. If you were not aware of this until now, this is the one realization that will turn your life inside out – or more accurately – outside in.
There is no one else to blame. What now? Can you see how you’ve been sabotaging all your relationships because of this small misunderstanding?
When you shift the focus on YOU alone, you can finally stop finding fault in outer circumstances and blaming other people. Then, find out how and why you are rejecting yourself.
How do you keep yourself ”safe” so you don’t have to experience rejection? Where do you hold feelings of not being worthy of love? These are the blocks that cause repeated rejection to occur. By healing the rejection wound within yourself, you no longer attract this experience in your life.
CAN YOU ANSWER THESE QUESTIONS TRUTHFULLY?
In what ways have I not allowed love into my life?
Have I not forgiven someone who seemingly ”rejected me”?
What defense patterns do I engage in that keep me from loving and being loved?
Am I holding on to hurt from past relationships ending?
TRULY, IT’S ALL ABOUT SELF LOVE
“A cup that is already full has no room to receive.” – A Zen Proverb
If your cup is full of defenses and hurt from all those outdated rejection encounters, you have no room for receiving love.
Somewhere in your inner operating system there is a command that says: I am not worthy of love, or, I am not good enough as I am. This prompt keeps you on automatic, no matter what your conscious wishes may be. If you think you can enter into a relationship and not have it end up in another rejection scenario – without doing the work of self forgiveness and healing – think again. These patterns don’t change until we do.
When you subconsciously send out signals of low self worth, what shoots back are situations and people that reflect it. Then we wonder why we keep getting into so-called rejection scenarios, over and over again.
So, find out what your inner blueprint says. Are you hiding a sense of worthlessness behind a facade of pride, self directed sarcasm, or rap about how none of this stuff even applies to you?
A quick way to see how much you really love yourself, is by taking a look at how people closest to you in your daily life are treating you. This is a direct barometer of your sense of self worth. The people closest to you, or their absence, can teach you most about how much you love yourself at this moment.
Remember, that there is a bigger picture in every heartache. Life is really teaching you to love more – through the pain – even if it feels like a stagger in the heart. We continuously set ourselves up for rejection unless we truly learn how to accept and love ALL parts of ourselves. This is the journey back to wholeness.
THE RECOVERY PLAN
There is no express way to loving yourself more. It’s a matter of making the choice, and then following up with consistency and commitment to yourself, day by day.
When you start focusing on loving yourself and living life the way you want it, miracles start to happen. Suddenly, all these barriers start crumbling down. This is the single most valuable thing you can do to yourself and others. After all, all of your experiences and relationships arise from this place of unconditional love and acceptance of yourself.
Here is the way it works: the more genuine self love you can allow in (not talking about egoistical, self indulgent kind of love, but soul love), the more loving people and circumstances you will attract in your life. From a place of authentic self love, it is impossible to experience rejection, because there is nothing to reject!
DON’T LET THE PAST TELL YOU WHAT TO DO
Start living in the present moment, conscious of who you want to be TODAY. You have chosen this experience and finally understand what it was all about. Just process it, and choose to let go. Pain and joy are both part of life’s ebb and flow. They come and go. Don’t hold on to your pain for longer than necessary.
Ultimately, rejection is another story we tell ourselves to avoid being truly vulnerable and open. Allow the feelings to run through you without resistance, and realize that you were never truly rejected by anyone else, nor were they.
All we really need to do is LET GO of the stories that keep us from realizing the illusion of separateness.
“Greet yourself in your thousand other forms as you mount the hidden tide and travel back home.” – Hafiz
All my life I have been seeking for this elusive thing called love. But, looking for love hasn’t brought me any closer to it. Quite the opposite, actually.
Then, sometime ago I went through a trauma that woke me up. I had just lost a baby and left a painful relationship. I was so shattered that all I could do for weeks on end, was to lay on the floor and listen to silence.. it was somewhere in that silence that I entered an awareness where all desire for any kind of seeking dropped. As I laid on the floor week after week, I began to surrender to the pain and decided to listen to what it had to say. I was exhausted on all levels of my being, and there was just nowhere else to go.
To my surprise, what was underneath the pain was an ocean of Love. I felt how everything I had ever searched for was already in me; like a kaleidoscope that reflects an entire world in a single fragment. Separation no longer existed – I was one with everything I had ever sought for. This was home and I had been there before countless times, but somehow kept forgetting the way back. Seeking hadn’t brought me there. It was only after I stopped seeking, that a door opened.
“Lovers don’t finally meet somewhere, they’re in each other all along..” – Rumi
Have you ever been in a perfect relationship and still secretly yearned for more, for something deeper? We wander from one relationship to the next in search of the “one” true love.
Each time, when you look into your lover’s eyes, what do you see? A reflection of yourself.
We constantly buy into some counterfeit form of love: sex, romance, egoic attraction and so on. Then, we assign conditions and objects to this love. But, the love that needs a condition or a face is not the true story. You may be caught in the temporary delusion that love mysteriously appears when you meet a “match” or a certain condition is filled. When the conditions of your love affair fall out of favor, what is left of this love?
Sometimes, it takes many heartbreaks and fruitless quests to understand that romantic love is not what we ultimately seek.
All the people, shapes and forms we fall in love with in the exterior world are only ripples on the surface of an endless, primordial ocean. In the end, romantic love can only remind us of the divine, unconditional, unchanging love that is our true home. It exists as a force of nature that secretly powers everything. Love can never leave you, because it’s what you’re made of. We are caught in a perpetual search for outside love only because we have forgotten this simple truth.
“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” -Rumi
I had understood the concept intellectually, and even felt it in fleeting moments, but it had never taken root until I had exhausted myself with suffering.
Finally, I saw that what my heart really longed for, was not a lover, but to return back to its source. True Love is not a question of finding anything or anyone to love, but remembering who you are.
“You create your own universe as you go along” – Winston Churchill
The country I grew up in had two TV channels at the time. That was all that was available. Then, a few years later they added a third one. By the time I was a teenager another one came.
I remember feeling overwhelmed by all these new channels that had popped up.
In the U.S alone, there are hundreds of channels. Television is like a micro-cosmos of life on earth: at each given moment, we choose which channel we wanna tune into.
When I watch TV I’m getting thoughts, ideas, and subconscious signals of somebody else’s pretended life. All my time, energy, and focus is being wasted on fiction, instead of what’s really happening – and more importantly, what could be happening if I wasn’t pouring my attention down the tube.
When you choose something on TV, it’s called entertainment. When you choose something in real life, it’s called manifesting your own reality. Both actions are governed by the same basic principles of energy.
Our lives are created by the choices we make. If you’re flipping through too many channels, you not only get sensory overload, but become de-sensitized to your choices and what’s really happening in your life.
What if I Can’t Choose What I Want?
Not being able to make up your mind is another type of choice; one that creates chaos and unpredictability. Some may call the result of this kind of choice ‘chance’ or ‘luck’. Getting lucky simply means that somewhere along the line you made a choice without knowing it, and it happened to be in alignment with your best wishes. If you were unlucky you made a choice that was in alignment with you fears; what you didn’t want.
Frequently, we are unconscious of our choices. Having gazillion channels buzzing around creates static, and makes it more difficult to discern your own truth from fiction.
If there’s fear, lack and confusion in your life, then take a look at the channels you’ve been tuning into. What has your attention and intention been focused on lately?
What About Other People’s Choices?
Everyone has a channel. We are all stars in our own reality show. If two channels merge by conscious intent, the frequency shifts and the channels can become co-creators of the same show. Multiplied by many viewers, the channels’ power grows. This is how realities are created: choice, attention and focused intent.
You can’t consciously create your own reality when you’re caught up in someone else’s drama.
What other people choose does not matter, unless their wishes happen to align with yours. If they choose the opposite of what you want, there’s nothing you can do, apart from undertaking futile resistance. Your channel is your own making.
Change The Channel
All our experiences are created by the choices we make and the intentions behind the choice. Choose what is most significant and relevant to you, and use the power of your attention, focus and will to align with the outcome you want.
There is nothing else standing between the life you wanna lead and where you stand currently, except these three very powerful steps. If you don’t like what’s playing in your life, change the channel. It’s about as simple as that.
Furthermore, get off CNN, Facebook, Twitter (after you Tweet this post) and whatever else is distracting you and start focusing on the life YOU want to create.
“We either make ourselves miserable or we make ourselves happy. The amount of work is the same.” -Carlos Castaneda
Earlier in my life I was addicted to drugs. Then alcohol. Then martial arts. Then adrenaline. Anything that made me forget the pain would do. Later, I became addicted to knowledge and learning. At the moment, I am addicted to chocolate pudding and Bob Dylan.
Nearly everyone has some form of addiction. Addictions are born from the belief that we are not complete as we are. That we need to look outside ourselves for something that will fill the void, complete us in someway, and take away the pain. Rather than going through the emotions, we reach for something to numb them out.
It doesn’t matter what your addiction is to – booze, love, sex, drama, even spiritual teachings – it all comes from the same source of incompleteness. We think that people, thoughts, or things outside of us can fill that bottomless pit of hunger in our being.
Feelings and thoughts come and go. That’s all that the pain is – just a feeling that needs to pass through, so you can learn from it.
I’ve had friends and family members who have died from addictions. Because they never faced the source of their pain. What a waste. Often, we spend more energy in trying to avoid the pain, than it would take to just look at it and let it come out. So, that’s what it was all about? Some rejected feelings that got blown out of proportion.
If you are addicted to something you are out of touch with your emotions and need to ask yourself the following questions:
What do I avoid and reject?
What emotions have I not allowed myself to fully process and feel?
What truth about my life have I not faced?
If you don’t meet your pain, it will come to meet you. Chances are you will be out of your favorite drug-of-choice when it happens. Then what? You can either face the pain directly or perish. Accept the reality of this moment or exhaust yourself by fighting and resisting it.
The emotional band-aid that the addiction provides disappears as easily as it came to be. Then, we’re left with the void again; in an endless cycle of seeking external fulfillment. The pain never goes away by hiding it. It’s always there, only numbed out and in exile. I’ve realized with my own addictions over the years, that I can never escape something that is part of me. I can only accept it, try to understand it and then transform it.
Truth is that nothing “out there” can complete us. Because we are already complete, only somehow we’ve forgotten this. Feeling the pain is vital. The more we allow ourselves to feel, the more understanding we develop, and the more healing can take place.
There is no right or wrong. It’s all just LIFE.
We think of something as good or bad, right or wrong, because we were born with the idea of separation and duality. Black and white. Hot and cold. Pain and pleasure.
Putting labels on everything makes us more comfortable. But, can we ever really and truly know what something is? It surely doesn’t get any better because we know. To know that I am in pain doesn’t bring any relief.
You can call it what you want, join groups and try to force yourself out of the addiction, but you’re never gonna be in complete recovery, until you understand and process the root of the pain.
Besides, nobody is perfect.
There is no such a thing as perfection. It’s only a story you’ve made up.
I still struggle with the search of external happiness. What helps me get through it, is that I allow myself to FEEL the pain and emptiness, and know better now than to try and hide from it.
If we knew without a question of a doubt, and not just as an abstract thought, that we are all connected to one source of life, would there be a need to search for something on the outside to complete us? I think not. We would understand that we already are, and have everything we could ever want – and most importantly – that we are never alone.